How do I prevent premature ejaculation from
happening?
The most common treatment of premature ejaculation is to become
more familiar with the feelings and sensations surrounding the time
leading up to ejaculation. By learning to become more familiar with
these sensations, you can slowly learn how to predict when the
upcoming ejaculation will occur and gain more control over them.
This is known as your point of no return.
If you want to be able to enjoy long periods of intense pleasure
without ejaculation, you need to discover your point of no return.
Masturbate and concentrate on you feelings. There is a point at
which you will not be able to control your ejaculation anymore. At
that point, as hard as you try, you cannot stop yourself from
ejaculating. You will have to ejaculate because ejaculation is a
reflex: your brain sends messages through your spinal cord to your
sex organs and orders ejaculation.
Once you have successfully discovered your point of no return do
not let your arousal reach this point. You can eithr change your
position or stop moving.
Other techniques you may consider are the "stop and start" and
the "squeeze" methods.
The "stop and start" method. When, during thrusting, you feel
yourself getting closer, cease all movement and press the pubic
bone (under your pubic hair) against your mate's pubic bone, thus
pushing your penis in all the way. Then both stop moving. (Tell
her, "Resting time, love.") When the urgency to ejaculate subsides,
start thrusting again. Do this several times in a row. It can also
be practiced solo, using your hand instead of a vagina. A varation
of this technique is to make several voluntary twitching movements
of the penis while you are resting. This can be done by rapidly
flexing and relaxing the muscles that control the flow of urine.
Try to identify this muscle contraction next time that you urinate.
This muscle is known as the PC muscle and is described clearly in
the Multiple-Orgasm section below.
The "squeeze technique" method. This method, which has been proven
highly successful in training men to last longer described in a
book by Dr. Herbert E. Vendervoort and Rev. Ted Mcilvenna. This
technique can also be practiced alone during masterbation.
One stimulates himself until he has had a firm erection for a
while, squeezes, and repeats the process several times. After
several squeezes, one should have much more intense ejaculation
than usual.
During the no-intercourse period, the couple should explore one
another sensually, caressing one another's bodies with hands and
mouth or by any other means, short of intercourse, that are
pleasurable to both. If the man's penis becomes erect while his
mate is caressing it, she can, at any time that feels right to her,
apply the squeeze to his penis. Preferably this should take place
before the man feels himself on the verge of ejaculating. IF the
women does the squeeze several times at her descretion, it can
become part of her lovemaking technique.
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