This section on Male Orgasm is for men of all types. It is here
solely to help you understand more about how your body works,
specifically the male reproductive system leading up to orgasm.
It's our hope that you learn something from this article, about
yourself as well as your body.
Premature Ejaculation:
What exactly is premature ejaculation?
Ejaculation that occurs prior to when a man wishes or too quickly
during intercourse to satisfy the partner.
When most males ejaculate they tend to quickly lose a usable
erection for the simple reason that their discharge has temporarily
released a state of elevated sexual tension.
What are the causes of premature
ejaculation?
It seems logical that our prehistoric male ancestors were all rapid
ejaculators. The Homo Erectus who could couple quickly with his
mate and repidly reach ejaculation was then free to deal with enemy
tribesman and predatory sabre-toothed tigers. The slowpoke got
clubbed or eaten. Therefore, only rapid ejaculators survived long
enough to sire descendants. Thus, if speed of ejaculation were
hereditary, we all should have fast ejaculatory reflexes.
Obviously, the above theory cannot be proven; however, it does
contain an element of truth. It is probably "natural" for healthy
males to ejaculate quickly. Lasting longer serves no genetic
function that we know of.
Lasting is a learned behavior, like learning to dance. It can
prolong and intensify pleasure for a man. Also, many women like to
experience orgasm -or have been socially conditioned to enjoy
orgasm - when the erect penis is inside them. To reach orgasm this
way often requires periods of more or less continuous stimulation
by the penis.
Premature ejaculation is sometimes also caused or aggrivated
psychological factors such as guilt, fear, and performance
anxiety.
The first thing a male must hold in mind is that good sex is
unhurried sex. The longer he spends in foreplay prior to his first
orgasm, the stronger and more enjoyable that first orgasm will be.
The compacting of blood in the sex organs builds slowly, inflating
the tissues and sensitizing the millions of nerve endings in and
around the genitals.
Think of an orgasm like a balloon: the longer you blow air into
it, the bigger it gets and the louder the bang when it pops.
Orgasm consists of two stages. One begins with the prostate gland,
which encircles the urethra like a tiny donut above the base of the
penis, contracts and releases its fluids, along with the contents
of the seminal vesicle, into the urethra. To most males this feels
like you are going to start a good sneeze, but it's too late to
stop. Stage two is similar to the sneeze itself. The pelvic muscle
contract strongly around the bulb, forcing the fluid out under
considerable pressure. Orgasm is what a man feels when all this is
happening. He has probably learned for himself that it is possible
to ejaculate without having an orgasm, but he may not yet realize
that he can also have an orgasm without ejaculating. That's exactly
what you want to learn to do.
The average male in his twenties takes less than three minutes from
the time of insertion till he comes. This cheats him of a lot of
fun and satisfaction and doubly cheats the unfortunate female he
prematurely has an orgasm into.
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